Throughout my life I have had many different experiences that have thought me how ineffective and effective mine and other communication styles can affect the relationships you have with people on a daily basis. I have had good experiences and bad experiences with communication. Throughout this paper I am going to talk about four different experiences that have happened throughout my life that have had a positive or negative effect with the people around me. The four different experiences of communication that I have faced is with my boyfriend, my parent's, cheerleaders ND also my old Job.These experiences have taught me so much different things about communication.
The first experience that I am going to talk about is the affect of my boyfriends and I communication styles. I have been with my boyfriend now for ten months. Our communication is the most important part of our relationship considering my boyfriend Geoffrey Solaris lives in San Diego and I live in Philae. We live two hours away from each other so communication is something we both take very seriously. One way that we found how to communicate that is effective for us for is to use verbal communication.
Talking over the phone is one of the common ways we communicate when we are away from each other. This communication style for us works very well. We know how to tell the different tones of the other persons voice, by this we are able to tell if one of is is sad, happy, or mad. We are also able to determine if one is Joking or being serious by their tone of voice. Another communication style that works for us and is effective for my boyfriends and I is non- verbal communication. My boyfriend is able to read my gestures, body language, and my facial expressions very well.
I tend to use facial expressions the most. For example hen my boyfriend is doing something that I don't like I tool at him with a face like what do you think your doing and he automatically know that he is doing something wrong so he stops what he's doing. For my boyfriend and I our communication styles are very affective. We know exactly how to communicate with one another.
Also another experience I have had with communication was with my parent's. With each of my parent's our communication styles are different. I will start with my mothers and my communication.My mothers and I communication style works and we get along most of the time.
With my mother the communication styles we use are verbal ND non- verbal. These two styles work for us in a positive way. We both understand our communication styles. For example my mother and I can sit down on our living room couch and talk for hours.
This style of communication works for my mother and I and is very affective because we hardly have issues communicating with each other. However with my father we sometimes have a hard time communicating.My father and I try to communicate the best we can although we tend to argue and yell at each other a lot. So I would say that our communication is not as effective than it is with my mothers and I communication styles.
My father and I use verbal communication does not always work for us. A lot of the time we will start talking to each other normal and then soon after we are either arguing or yelling at each other. I feel like the reason why our communication skills are the way they are is because my father does not understand how to deal with certain citations and he tends to get mad very easily.Over all my parent's and my communication works in a positive and a negative way.
Another experience that I have had with communication was while I was in high school. I used to be a varsity cheerleader from freshman year all the way till senior year. As a cheerleader you have to be able to communicate with the crowd at a football game, basketball game, or even at a cheerleaders competition. While I was in cheer we used verbal communication to communicate with the crowd. We would also use visual communication.
We would use certain motions with our arm that would either mean touchdown, or come on crowd. I believe that being a cheerleader was very effective because it taught me a lot about communication. I had to communicate with a huge crowd, my coaches, and also my squad. Being a cheerleader opened me up because I used to be really shy and would hardly talk to anyone I did not already now. If I had not Joined cheer I don't know if I would know what I know today. Being a cheerleader taught me a lot about communication.
The last experience that I had would be when I was working at Community Hospital of San Bernardino as a certified nursing assistant. While I was working there I had to use all of the communication styles. With nurses I had to use verbal communication so I could tell them exactly what was going on with their patient. Also I had to use visual communication for some patients who could not hear nor knew sign language. I would have to write things down on paper to communicate with them. Also I had to SE non- verbal communication for some patients who could not speak, hear nor read.
I would then have to use gestures so they knew exactly what I was doing. I believe that all these communication styles were effective in one way or another. However it was harder to communicate with some of the nurses because they did not like me and I did not like them either. The rest of the communication styles seemed to work Just fine.
Although I did not like working at the hospital and was very relieved when they laid me off this summer I did learn how to put all the different communication styles into practice and find out how they worked with different people.As you have read throughout my paper I have had four different experiences that have involved communication in some way or another. The four different experiences of communication that I have faced is with my boyfriend. My parent's, cheerleaders and also my old Job. Throughout my experiences I have dealt with different struggles and successes of communication. Going through these experiences I have learned a lot about how people communicate and the different was people communicate.
My experiences have been very effective and I am lucky and glad to have/am going through these experiences.
