Divorce is the most delicate and contagious thorny issue in all contemporary societies of the world notwithstanding cultural background and social settings upon which it is highlighted. In the event of its occurrence, children are most likely to suffer emotional torture, experience neglect and abandonment. In marital unions where children exist, divorce of any kind and for whatever reason must be authorized on condition that the welfare of children and safety of couples are considered, otherwise the couples should stay together. Children whose parents separate after attaining the school going age suffer a lot of emotional and psychological stress.
The mere thought of parents separating for life is such a horrible experience not only to children, but also to teenagers and young adults. They become demoralized and exhibit a chronic withdrawal syndrome, which could lead to permanent mental disorder. Porter (2010) observed that out of a sample of 20,000 kindergarteners through fifth graders, children whose parents divorced perform poorly in their academic work, hence do not benefit from educational programs compared to those with both parents. Their ego and self-conceptualization are highly compromised on the same magnitude; they often shy of in the course of their interactions with the peers.
When parents decide to separate or rather divorce, their children are faced with multiple stressors. The wild thoughts of children living with only a single parent in the absence of the other is tormenting enough (Clinical Psychology Associates 2012). Considering that they will miss the usual pampers from one the parent compromises psychological and emotional safety of children. As these children grow up they have higher chances of not attaining self conceptualization and full personality development compared to their counterparts who are nurtured by both parents. The research conducted by Knox and Schacht (2010) reveals that children need the presence of both parents in order to realize psychosocial security- an important element that a single parent cannot attain no matter how hard he or she might try to make up for the absence of the other.
The 2010 Survey on parenting further revealed that out of the total children who were suffering from inferiority complex and behavioral problems in kindergarten and fifth grade across the United States of America, 80% of them were coming from single parented and broken families. They are violent in nature; fight and bully other chilldren; cannot settle down and concentrate in class due to lack of discipline- they are messy everywhere. Teachers attributed this gross misconduct to lack of parental control back at home, because children are left on their own without constant adult supervision, something which can only be done by both parents in shifts. Most pitifully, this trend is likely to spill into teenage and eventually adulthood, if the situation is not contained in good time.Having highlighted all the problems that are associated with single parenting and their detrimental aftermaths in the future lives of children, parents are under an obligation to stick together in marriage no matter their differences back at home. They should not just be obsessed with the simple thought of separating as always the case in the American societies.
Definitely this is a big no for those couples who are parents. The tedious and noble task demands the strong elements of selfness, dedication to the well being of children (both at present and in the future), relentless desire to mould children into responsible citizens, and zeal to provide children with all categories of needs be its social, psychological, and emotional. None of these could be realized, if divorce is authenticated as many parents would wish.
