Parenting style refers to the way parents behave around their children. A parenting style is not determined by individual events, like a moment of conflict.
Instead, it is defined by the overall demeanor that a parent has when he or she is engaging his or her children. There are two popular parenting styles that most people are aware of: Authoritarian and Permissive parenting. The authoritarian style is a restrictive style of parenting focusing on following rules and assuming that the child is incompetent. The authoritarian parenting style is sometimes referred to as the military parenting style.
On the other hand, the permissive style includes parents who are involved and loving with their children but who fail to set limits or provide meaningful controls over their behavior. In short, the permissive parenting style is as people call it the “anything goes” style. As a result, in the battle of the parenting styles, authoritarian parenting wins because of consequences, feelings, and background. Everything someone does brings consequences, but especially when it comes down to parenting styles.
Children of permissive parents do not have guidance or support.Also, the permissive parents are unconcerned about their children’s lives because of their own selfish interests. For example, some mothers care more about their lovers than their own child. As a result, a big quantity of children of permissive parents end up dropping out of school, in jail, selling or doing drugs, being a delinquent, a murderer, or a predator.
This is all due to the unimportance the parents give their children. However, children of authoritarian parents have guidance and support. The authoritarian parents set and enforce limits, but they do so to protect their children.They also are very involved in the child’s lives and make sure the child is doing all the right things at school, work, etc. Consequently, most of the children of authoritarian parents end up being going to college, succeeding in everything they do, and knowing right from wrong. Believe it or not, all human beings have feelings.
And our feelings can be hurt the most by the ones they love, such as family. In this case, children of permissive parents usually engage in attention seeking behavior, also known as “acting out. Many children who observe their friends who have permissive parents, crave to have the same for themselves. However, that’s not usually true for the child of a permissive parent.
He or she craves the attention of his or her parents, and inside each of them feels unloved, unimportant, and not cared for. On the other hand, children of authoritarian parents tend to either rebel against their parents or become submissive. Because of their restriction to everything, children of authoritarian parents want to explore for themselves. Even if it means going behind their parents back to do so.
Everyone makes mistakes but with the help and guidance of authoritarian parents they will eventually realize that certain things are not the right thing or the way to go. Everyone has a past. Some have a good background while others have a not so good one. But it is not about how easy or hard someone’s past might be but about how the past has made that person into who he or she is today. For instance, a large percentage of permissive parents are carefree with their children because they experienced the life of a child of authoritarian parents.As a result, they know how it feels to have restrictions and do not want their children to have the restrictions they had.
They want their children to live and enjoy the carefree life they couldn’t have. However, authoritarian parents are strict with their children because they experienced the life of a child of permissive parents. For this reason, they know how it feels to be out on the streets and how dangerous life can be without the guidance of loved ones. So in order for their children to not feel this grief, they make sure that they do the complete opposite of their parents and lead their child in the right direction.
Children imitate and learn much more from their parents than most parents realize. Even the slightest behaviors are picked up by children and acted out in their own lives. Styles of conflict and the way parents carry themselves will be relived to some extent in their children's lives. Therefore, it's important for parents to pick a parenting style that best fits how they would like their child to behave now, and as he or she grows to be an adult. After all, it's a parent's responsibility to prepare his or her children to survive in this world without them. What parenting style do you consider the best?
