The couple came in very angry, the woman named Judith had a hard time not yelling or getting loud when her husband tried to stay as calm as he could without yelling, the exploration stage is trying to dig in and see what the actually problem with both parties, letting the tell their side of the story and the other tells theres. Trying to get to the bottom of the problem like when Judith did not feel like she was getting heard so her reaction to the is to get loud, some people feel if they get loud the other party may actually listen to what they are saying but really it pushes the other party away.Then the clarification stage and this is where we take the issues at hand and try to get the couple to understand how the other is feeling, clarifying what is being said and how the person means, like when richard was trying to explain why he was not ready to have children, he was trying to put the focus on judition and her angry without really meaning to, this is when the therapist stepped in and helped richard say what he really meant. Then the action stage, this is when the therapist helps the couple make an action plan for their issues, like when she said each party is responsible for soothing themselves and then coming back to reslove the issue.
i feel like the therapist did a great job interviewing the couple when she felt like she was getting upset in the beginning she took a second to calm down and restart. the therapist, ask are you okay with that? and can we do that? which i think was a great way of getting through to the couple. I do not believe there was a better way of asking those question.
