The Prevalent Issues of Surrogate Parenting
Surrogate parenting refers to an arrangement between a married couple
who is unable to have a child because of the wife’s infertility and a
fertile woman who agrees to conceive the husband’s child through
artificial insemination, carry it to term, then surrender all parental
rights in the child. Often, the surrogate mother receives compensation
for her services. The final step in the process is typically the
father’s acknowledgment of paternity and adoption, with his wife, of
the child. Through surrogate motherhood, a couple desiring a child
need not wait an indefinite number of years for an adoptable baby, as
generally happens at the present time. The married couple obtains a
child who is the husband’s biological offspring- a child for whose
existence both husband and wife can feel responsible.
Surrogate parenting is highly controversial by its very nature.
Nevertheless, surrogate parenting is attracting wide spread attention
as a viable alternative for infertile couples intent on having a child.
Contract surrogacy is officially little more than ten years old,
although surrogate mothering is a practice that has been known since
biblical times. In 1986 alone 500 babies had been born to mothers who
gave them up to sperm donor fathers for a fee, and the practice is
For this reason there are many questions and doubts that arise from
this subject. Often there are many legal difficulties that come about
with surrogate parenting. In some states the contracts that insure the
infertile couple the baby of the surrogate mother mean nothing. This,
in turn, can cause huge problems if the surrogate mother were to change
her mind about giving up her child. Who has the rights to the child in
this awful situation? Surrogate parenting is a wonderful alternative
for infertile couples as long as all party’s involved are educated on
the subject and are fully aware of the pros and cons of this risky
Unfortunately laws on surrogate parenting aren’t very helpful.
Increasing numbers of surrogate custody cases are finding their way
into the courtrooms. The most dramatic problem arises when the
surrogate mother decides she wants to keep the baby.Whether she decides
early or late in the pregnancy, at birth, or after the child is born,
the ultimate issue is whether she or the infertile couple have parental
How is the law to respond to this kind of problem? Normally people
would agree that a contract is a contract and therefore the infertile
couple should be the ones to receive the baby. Unfortunately for some
of us more sympathetic people this decision is not that simple. By
changing her mind the surrogate mother is showing maternal feelings
that are surely not reprehensible. Although she has promised to give
up the baby her change of heart seems more understandable than
dishonorable. After all how can a woman truly be expected to know how
it will feel to give birth to a child and then have to give it up?
These are very good questions that tend to leave one undecided as to
which party’s demand is justifiable and should be upheld.
Instead of deciding surrogacy issues on the basis of the law and
policy of the states, judges could look for guidance from the U.S.
Constitution. Constitutional arguments can be made on both sides of
the classic surrogacy dispute involving the mother who changes her mind
about giving up her child. Resolution of the constitutional issues
will depend ultimately upon assessing and weighing the various factors
at stake. Like decisions based on contract and criminal law,
constitutional decisions will take account of the party’s interests,
the child’s interests, society’s interests, and the effectiveness of
legalization and regulation as opposed to prohibition.
Many Americans remained unaware of these dramas, but virtually
everyone in the United States became aquainted during 1987 with the
plight of Mary Beth Whitehead and “Baby M”. Mrs. Whitehead was a
twenty-nine year old house wife. She already had two children, and
decided she would be the surrogate mother for a couple by the name of
Mr. and Mrs. William and Elizabeth Stern. The Sterns were 40 and 41
years old. They had been married for 12 years and were childless. Mrs.
Stern had a mild case of multiple sclerosis and was unable to bare any
Although Whitehead promised in the contract that she would form no
bond with the baby, she knew in the delivery room she could not give up
her child. Whitehead ended up kidnapping the new born. The case
proceeded to a much-publicized trial entailing six weeks of testimony
and half a million dollars in legal bills.
Unfortunately many surrogate agreements end with a tragic conclusion
similar to this one. These awful outcomes could be completely avoided
if the law would include in its many clauses, unconditional protection
against any infringement upon the contract between the surrogate mother
and the infertile parents.
In order for surrogacy to work with its initial intent, there can be
no exceptions to this law. Although there will be cases in which the
enforcement of these laws may be seemingly harsh and apathetic, it is
the only way that this wonderful alternative for infertile parents can
rightfully continue, without potentially ruining the lives of all
parties involved, most importantly the child’s.
Although the rights of the infertile couple should be first and
foremost, it is important not to overlook the grievances of the
surrogate mother. Preparation via support groups and individual
therapy should be offered to the surrogate mother before the birth, not
only to inform her of the enormous feat that lay ahead of her, but also
to prepare her to deal with the traumas that can accompany the loss of
a child. The importance of informing the surrogate mother in full that
the contract she is to agree to is not reversible, is immense.
Not all cases involving surrogate parenting result in battles for
custody. Ironically, in some cases the battle is to decide which party
will be forced to take the child as their own.
One example of this unusual incidence occurred in 1982. Judy Stiver,
a twenty-six year old house wife agreed to bare a child for forty-six
year old Alexander Malahoff and his wife for a fee of $10,000 dollars.
The Malahoffs had wanted a child to strengthen their marriage, but the
couple separated during the pregnancy. It was then found that the baby
would be born with microcephaly- a handicap that not only left the
child with an abnormally small head (which is usually indicative of
retardation), but the infant was also left without a home to be
released into. The natural mother said that she felt no maternal bond
with the baby but she agreed to the intravenous antibiotics to combat
the baby’s life-threatening infection. Malahoff, however, instructed
the medical staff to take no steps or measures to treat the strep
infection or otherwise care for the infant. Both sets of parents then
went on to renounce their responsibility for the child. The hospital
obtained a court order authorizing doctors to treat the baby, and the
infection was cured. The baby, however, had no home to be released
into from the hospital and was consequently placed in foster care. The
case became an example of the horrible possibilities such arrangements
can entail when a baby is born with a handicap. This type of incident
should be avoided by making it infinitely clear in the beginning of the
process of the surrogacy agreement that, under no condition will there
be a breech of contract.
Although it may seem that all cases end in tragedy, there are in fact
many cases in which the end result is precisely the way all deciding
parties had intended it to be, with the child being placed in a happy
and loving environment. However, despite these many success stories,
there are still groups that advocate the prohibition of surrogacy. One
such group is the National Committee for Adoption. The NCA has been a
consistent and outspoken critic of surrogacy and wants it to be
outlawed. They argue that the availability of surrogacy would cut back
on the adoption of existing babies. Perhaps if infertile couples were
unable to employ a surrogate to have a child for them, they would go
about getting a child in some other way, one that would be much more
beneficial to society. They might decide to adopt a child already in
existence, or a child who will be born in any event and who is in need
of a home and family. Fulfilling their parental urges in that way,
they would perform an important service to the child and to society.
Although this is a valid argument, for some couples adoption seems
unavailable. Many couples today are waiting longer before attempting
to conceive and thus are older when they discover that they have a
problem. Especially if they take time to undergo fertility treatments
before turning to adoption, they may find that they are too old to be
acceptable to conventional adoption agencies, which prefer couples
under the age of thirty-five. Moreover, adoption is not as easy today
as it has been in the past, and there is a definite shortage of healthy
newborns available for adoption in this country.
Infertile couples would argue that the chance to have a “normal” child,
and a child as biologically connected to them as possible, is not
afforded by special needs adoption or even the adoption of healthy
newborns, and that although it benefits society more for them to adopt
an existing child than to conceive a new one, the same is true for
fertile couples, who nonetheless are permitted to reproduce without any
restriction by the state.
Surrogate motherhood is growing in popularity because it meets the
urgently felt needs of those who resort to it better than any of the
alternatives as they see them. As a consentual arrangement it is as
worthy of legal protection as many others which, formerly suspect, are
now taken for granted. Subject to reasonable regulation, it deserves
to take a place among the growing array of methods available to
individuals for the ordering of their own marital and reproductive
lives. Doctrines fitted to other circumstances should not be allowed
to bar the legality or enforcement of surrogate motherhood agreements.
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