Therefor, communication, trust and respect are both very important factors in both The Veldt and Penny in the Dust. However, they are both viewed differently by each family and both families turned out completely different. That is why I think the two stories we read are the perfect examples of how communication, trust and respect influences how a family functions. Respect is another huge issue for the parents and kids in The Veldt. One instance of this would be the kids louring their parents into a trap and eventually killing them.
This obviously shows a lack of respect and mental health on the kids behalf. I don't think the parents much respected their children either, they showed this by threatening to turn off the nursery and even the whole house without even discussing it with the kids. The family doesn't function as a family but more like a couple. The parents being the man, who thinks he's in control and dishes out the orders and the children being the woman who really has the man whipped even though he still thinks he's in charge. Respect in Penny in the Dust on the other hand could not be better.
Peter shows an incredible amount of respect to his father, almost to the point where he i An Essay on Parent/Child Relationships The misunderstandings between parents and their children have gone back as far as there have been families. Two good examples of this can be found in The Veldt by Ray Bradbury and Penny in the Dust by Ernest buckler. The differences in parenting methods are quite plain to see when looking at communication, trust and respect. In The Veldt communication is definitely lacking in the sense that the family never really deals with any deep issues.
The parents never ask their kids directly what is bothering them, instead they go to a psychiatrist. This would make Peter and Wendy feel neglected and more importantly they would feel as if they had no parents. The kids don't help too much either however, they never tell their parents what's bothering them, instead they turn to their nursery and use it as their guardian, their home away from home, or their parent away from their parents. In Penny in the Dust there are less serious problems with communication.
Peter and his father have a unique bond that is not unhealthy but could use some work. They both understand each others need for space and do not upset each other with deep psychological talk. Peter is not spoiled or pampered but feels loved all the same. And unlike The Veldt It is now widely recognized by psychologists that the first few years of a child's experiences are crucial in her subsequent personality and behavioral development. The most critical aspect in this regard is the child's relationship with her parents in the formative years.
The recognition of this simple fact has led to the development of the "attachment theory" that emphasizes the importance of a close parent-child relationship in promoting a balanced, caring and trustful individual-so essential for the evolution of a healthy society. This essay gives a brief overview of the "parent-child attachment theory" and outlines its importance. Various people have carried out research on parent-child attachment during the last sixty years. Prominent names among them are John Bowlby, Mary Ainsworth and William Sears. Nix 2005) Bowlby, regarded as the father of the attachment theory, believed that all infants would become "attached"1 to their care-givers regardless of the type of care they receive-whether the care received was abusive, responsive, or inconsistent. However, the Building on the work of Bowlby, Mary Ainsworth devised a procedure, called The Strange Situation, to observe attachment relationships between a mother and child.
Her observations led her to categorize children on the basis of their type of attachment such as "secure," "anxious-ambivalent," "anxious-avoidant" or "disorganized. According to her theory of attachment, those children who received secure attachment were best able to adapt themselves and to cope with problems in later life, as they had a "secure" base to return to. ("Attachment Theory," 2005) William Sears and his wife Martha Sears were responsible for coining the word "attachment parenting"-a parenting style that is based on the attachment theory put forward by Bowlby and Ainsworth. They have written a number of books advocating a nurturing style of parenting aimed at creating an early, strong emotional bond that leads to a secure and enduring relationship between a child and her parents.
Some of the specific practices recommended in attachment parenting includes co-sleeping, i. e. , sleeping in the same b The purpose of this research is to examine the dramatic impact of the parent-child relationships in Hamlet and King Lear. The plan of the research will be to set forth the importance of these relationships to the pattern of ideas in each play and then to discuss the means by and extent to which parent-child interaction drives the action of and the fate of all the characters in each play. The complex parent-child ituation at home initiates and drives the action of Hamlet, and Hamlet is the hub of parent-child relationships with his mother, his new stepfather/uncle, and the ghost of his father.
Hamlet's emotional ties have been turned upside down. He compares Uncle Claudius unfavorably to the elder Hamlet, "no more like my father / Than I to Hercules" (I. ii). He does not understand how Gertrude could forget memories of the marriage with his father, which was plainly a love match. Gertrude "would hang on him, / As if increase of appetite had grown / By what it fed on: and yet, within a month-- / Let me not think on't--Frailty, thy name is woman! (I. ii). It turns out Hamlet's father was murdered by Claudius and that Hamlet must fix this evil by dispatching the new stepfather. But he is torn between action and thinking about consequences. His delay fosters many casualties and tragedies--including Hamlet himself. The importance of the parent-child dynamics to the play is that they explain the psychological turmoil of all the characters. Hamlet's mourning of his father is critic [pic] l destiny for the soul, would he not also have had the piety--unless he were willing to incur damnation--to leave that supernatural destiny to the judgment of God?
Certainly he was rationalizing his inaction. But I think there is sincerity in what he says. He can find no satisfaction in a mere physical dispatch of his villainous uncle; Hamlet . . . wants . . . something more--a deeper, more ultimate meaning for his act (Abel 54). Abel does not argue that Hamlet is concerned with Christian doctrine, right and wrong, or the basic morality of regicide, though Hamlet does express directly Christian concerns about his own soul vis-a-vis the Ghost. But all is overtaken by Hamlet's larger sense of the moral balance to be accomplished by the revenge.
The content of that balance is the obligation of filial piety, which from a cosmic perspective would not quite be satisfied if Claudius were dispatched while at prayer--even though the irony is that Claudius cannot pray and knows he is damned. Later, in the wake of the shock of Gertrude's death, compounded by Laertes's public blaming of the King and Hamlet's realization that his own death is imminent, it is perfectly appropriate that, in the fullness of his prerogative as injured son and prin Relationships between parents and children are often made more omplex by the fact that in addition to the strong emotional ties shared between parents and children, children are not yet developed enough to understand the full ramifications of their parents' behavior or communication when young or adolescents. In Ethan Canin's "The Year of Getting to Know Us," Jamaica Kincaid's "Girl," and Robert Hayden's "Those Winter Sundays," we see complex parent-child relationships. However, a common theme uniting these works is the difficulty for the children to fully understand their parents' behavior and communication because of their lack of development.
This analysis will compare and contrast these three works in order to show that children often fail to grasp the full significance of their parents' behavior and communication when young. In Ethan Canin's "The Year of Getting to Know us," we are provided with a short story in which the author is disturbed, in retrospect, by noticing aspects of his father's uncommunicativeness, which he disliked, in his own behavior. At one point in the story the father and son take a trip.
The father tells him they are on this trip because he wants his son to know him "because one day you're going to grow up and then you're going to be me," (Canin, p. 2). Though the son longs to know his father more and they seldom play baseball or other activities fathers and sons share, the son only comes to a better understanding of his [pic] views as love's "austerity," are necessary when being responsible for others, (Hayden, p. 1). Perhaps the speaker has children of his own now. He understands that though he could not appreciate his father's actions and demeanor at the time, love is often demonstrated as a lonely austerity when one sacrifices their own comfort for the comfort of others.
In this manner, the speaker comes to appreciate his father's actions and behavior much more than he did as a child, though his repetition of "What did I know" seems to imply he regrets it took him so long to understand, (Hayden, p. 1). In both Canin's short story and Hayden's poem we see sons who initially cannot appreciate their father's behavior or communication or, rather, what appears to them as a lack of communication. In Jamaica Kincaid's brief story "Girl," we see that a lack of communication is hardly the case. The mother in this story is traditional and ethnically oriented.
She is a Christian and subscribes to the African religion of obeah, one that posits an inferior role for women compared to men. Instead of a lack of communication, her adolescent daughter is deluged with a constant barrage of advice, tips, and lessons from her mother about how to be, how to work, [pic] Parents are partners with children in their conquest over learning disabilities. Parental reactions and effects as well as their different roles and involvement are important components related to the child's ability to cope and succeed.
Severity of disability and normalization reflect areas of controversy and concern. Parental Roles, Reactions, & Effects Parent's reactions to children with learning problems often reflect a house divided. Parents have different roles and participation of each is different. The mother gives birth to the child and often seems clairvoyant about the child's development; she may see what others cannot see and yet she may not be as eager to mention doubts and fears. Problems may not be faced until the child begins having difficulties in school.
School conferences are often held during the day, the father may not be available. Attempts to report difficulties to a busy father may result in comments that the child is probably bored (Osman, 1979). Many fathers are unable to face that their child couldn't achieve like everyone else. They remain inpatient with unrealistic appraisal of the child's abilities and/or the mother's efforts to help. Father's may resent the time spent with the child and resort to references that the mother is spoiling the child. This resentment adds strain to the marital relationship and drives the father further away from the child.
For this and other reasons, the father o [pic] elays, including mental retardation, slow learning/developmental delay, and functional developmental delay; five percent of the parents had concerns about global development; seven percent were concerned about school skills; eight percent were concerned about fine or gross motor skills; nine percent were concerned about receptive language skills; twenty-three percent were concerned about personal-social problems; twenty-seven percent were concerned about speech-expressive language; and most commonly, fifty-one ercent were concerns about behavior. It was concluded that relationships between types of parental concern and types of developmental problems were not found when children had global developmental delays; concerns regarding behavior were the strongest indicator of global developmental delay. Parents' concerns are therefore viewed at best as a prescreening tool and cannot be taken at face value.
Flipsen (1995) reports that mothers tend to be better than all other listeners (including fathers) at identifying words being spoken by speech-delayed children with normal hearing; Thus the overall superior performance of mothers was supported. However, different studies challenge this concept and argue that their findings ind